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Senko's avatar

The comparison to waiting during a lockdown drill hits so hard.

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Simona VS's avatar

Should you need it, we did the same but moved to Spain (EU citizen double passport). We welcome any one to come clear their head or even hide if it gets to that point.

We moved to be a safe place for others, a sort of bridge.

And we hope there will be no need for it but the list of possible guests is getting quite long, people with a foot on the plane... May God bring you peace no matter what, and may we keep peace within each other's heart

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Your Trans Cousin's avatar

I held my breath reading the whole thing. Proud of you. I’m also half of a trans man couple, having similar conversations.

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Flint Del Sol's avatar

T4T 🤝

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Heather H's avatar

Come to Alberta this summer and we’ll meet up for camping. I admire you two.

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e||ie's avatar

I'm with you, recently I've felt motivated to re-do my amateur camper van and downsize for quick movement. Thanks for sharing 🖤

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Natalie's avatar

I see you, you matter, and I’m happy to read this longer form piece here (followed from IG).

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Flint Del Sol's avatar

It’s been time to move to long form content for a while, so I’m glad it’s well received!

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Kelsey Biggar's avatar

Feel free to park on my street in Denver. There’s a lot of safety in being in Colorado too.

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River's avatar

I just made the same decision last night ❤️

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Ariana's avatar

If you need somewhere to land in LA, or hook ups in Spain, Mexico or Costa Rica, please DM me! Sending you and Xilo all the love and safety 💙

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Barbara Mottl's avatar

May your decision bring you both what you’re hoping for: peace, happiness, adventure, safety and love…for each other and new friends you’ve yet to

meet.

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Loudmouse42's avatar

My husband and I just spent two years traveling the country as RVers and only ended our journey because of a wreck that totalled our rig. We officially moved our residence from Texas to Minnesota, where we will both be a little safer, and are regrouping. Buying another RV is high on our priority list for all the same reasons. We need to be able to go at the drop of a hat. If you ever have questions about full timing or friendly vs unfriendly locations, or anything else at ALL, please don't hesitate to message.

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Deblianne's avatar

Come to thailand, you can bring the dogs and rent a place for $200 a month food is about $1.50-$2.50 a meal international schools will snap you both up here in a heartbeat. You can stay with me in Hua Hin while you find your feet if you need to. Honestly its just a matter of time before trans citizens will be sent to prisons in el salvador - “marco rubio just negotiated to potentially outsource detainees to el salvador” look at nazi germany - look at history. Either way whatever you decide you have global love and support

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Nadia Yvette Chambers's avatar

Criminalisation is very clearly en route. Very plausibly with the death penalty by dint of legislating being trans within 100km or similar of a child to be paedophilic & then the death penalty for paedophilia. De facto citizenship stripping & shipping off to be done in by harsh conditions in distant corners of the world (also, shipping trans prisoners off to Saudi Arabia or Iraq doesn’t really seem like that much more of a stretch than El Salvador) & they’ll make sure none ever return to testify about what was done to them

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jaybie's avatar

I am also a trans man partnered to a trans man, and although we haven't discussed leaving the states (yet) we made a big move right before the election. We made it to the PNW from TX and although things still feel scary we are likely in the safest part of the country right now. My hope is that this presidency shows the public that unjust laws can be resisted and that state power is always backed with the promise of violence.

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Kaedi Alexandra Peacecraft's avatar

I remember saying the exact same words to my therapist 7 months ago. I knew the threat that was coming, though I didn't realize I was going to be this bad. I am trying to leave the country now and can only hope that I'm not too late.

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Rayne Sletmoe's avatar

“I learned very young how to divorce myself from my body and the feelings I sometimes store inside of it…Because when you’re told right from the jump that you can’t trust yourself and that your experiences will be dismissed if they don’t meet the expectations of others, sometimes you just pull the plug completely.” Hit so hard🩷

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Cheye Pagel's avatar

My wife and I have been having the same conversation - figuring out what our hard line, it’s time to get out alert is. My therapist and are working on convincing my body that we are not in danger RIGHT NOW, but the fear boils under the surface all the time. Thank you for this…I know we’re not alone, but since I’m not allowed to talk about these things at work (high school teacher), I feel alone a lot of the time.

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