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Ginny's avatar

“The truth is that no parent has ever strengthened their relationship with their child by hurting someone else.”

This is so powerful and something I needed to see today. The whole letter packs an emotional punch. Thank you for writing it.

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Kris Nusskern's avatar

What a beautifully written letter! As a mother, I can’t imagine reading this and not being moved. But, I also can’t imagine denying my kids their identify. Both my kids are amazing humans, not at all the people I envisioned they’d be (and not at all free of challenges), but still amazing. Perhaps more so in my eyes because they are growing in ways I didn’t expect and it’s awesome to witness. So, I guess I have a hard time imagining what kind of anger causes a mother to turn away from their child.

Anyway, the letter is beautiful and touched this mother’s heart.

Also, your book is right here waiting to be read, but I’m also a newish teacher trying to survive the first weeks of school with a middle schooler and a senior.

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Jen Wijnker's avatar

Absolutely beautiful.

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Flint Del Sol's avatar

Thank you for reading!

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Karen Adler's avatar

Thank you for your wonderful words that can inspire other teachers to not feel victim to hate and fear, and to unburden themselves of any second guessing that people who care about others can sometimes feel in situations like this. My son has been an amazing 6th grade teacher for over 20 years. I am sending him your letter and book. I am thankful that there are loving human beings in the world like you.

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Flint Del Sol's avatar

I’m so glad!

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Kathleen Digby's avatar

All of this. 🥰

Thank you so much for these beautiful words, so gently yet firmly stated.

Much love and protection to you both on your travels. 🚐🏳️‍🌈

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Adrian S Costello's avatar

This is really beautiful 💜

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Flint Del Sol's avatar

Thank you so much

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Miri Stone's avatar

Just bought my copy. Thank you Flint 💙🌈🫂🌈💙

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Flint Del Sol's avatar

Thank you!

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Shayne J's avatar

Congratulations on your book! You have such an authentic and engaging wisdom. I'm looking forward to reading it.

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Larry Bohannon-Goldman's avatar

So well articulated!

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Ms. Resilient's avatar

Absolutely beautiful. Thanks for sharing.

Can I ask how she responded?

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Flint Del Sol's avatar

She didn’t — never heard from her again

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Ms. Resilient's avatar

Thanks for letting us know. Your beautiful letter left her no place for blame. And she was not at the point in her journey that she had other skills to respond.

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Martin Ison's avatar

All very sweet and all that, but...

Pediatricians are noticing greater numbers of boys whose physical maturation is delayed, or does not occur at all, including lack of development of sexual organs. Learning disabilities, especially in male children, have reached epidemic proportions. Soy infant feeding—which floods the bloodstream with female hormones that could inhibit the effects of male hormones—cannot be ignored as a possible cause for these tragic developments.

As for girls, an alarming number are entering puberty much earlier than normal, according to a recent study reported in the journal Pediatrics.

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Erin Mercer 📧's avatar

Your cut and pasted comment doesn’t have anything to do with the essay above. Were you trying to make a point? Maybe you meant to post this elsewhere. Hopefully you find your way.

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Joanna's avatar

Oh! That is the most perfect and loving thing you could have written to this mother.

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Rocket Cat's avatar

Wonderful! Bravo!

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